Writer, Podcaster, & Silence Breaker
About five years ago, a young lady walked up to me and asked me "how can you forgive the people that took most of your childhood years away from you"? She was a student at my daughter's high school. She had heard me speak at the school in front 80 people about forgiveness, abuse, & poverty. I told her "it takes time and a lot of patience". "But, if you're willing to process all of your feelings about the harm that was done to you, you can forgive the person(s) that abused you".
Eventually, I started working with other women from my community and girls from my daughter's high school. Coaching and guiding them through the process of how to forgive and how to move forward. Today I teach and inspire young women to change the direction of their path for the sake of their future.
I believe that you can make it after the pain. I am the ear & the support system for women who struggle with forgiving and moving forward from their past.
Breaking The Code of Silence
Silence is not the answer to breaking the vicious cycle of pedophilia, harassment, rape, abuse, or risky behavior. I'm breaking the silence & sharing my stories to motivate young women to forgive & move forward from their past. There's a code of silence that has broken the strength & courage of young women who were just trying to live and be free. Over 60% of women are exposed to sexual abuse and physical violence before the age of 16. Most of them are sworn to secrecy and threatened by their abuser to shut them up. Others are persuaded by family members that by reporting the act of rape and or physical violence that it will destroy their family.
If you put 10 women inside of one room, it is more than likely that at least nine have been victims of pedophilia, harassment, and/or sexual assault; or they have a friend, cousin, sister, aunt, mother, or grandmother who has been victimized.
The past can keep you from building & maintaining a stable life. Because of your past, you may be holding onto a lot of anger & resentment. I understand that the struggle of forgiving a person(s) and moving forward from the past is real. That's why I created My Break The Code of Silence Discussion Group & Coaching Program. To help & support women who have had a rough childhood and or endured a painful incident.
Some of us had to make adjustments in our lives after being raised in an unstable home where we could not depend on our parent(s) to provide our basic needs. Like food, water, and shelter. Then, on top of that, cope with abuse.
Learning to Forgive
Growing up in a household with a parent that chose drugs and alcohol over responsibility can be very traumatizing. That traumatization can affect the choices that you make. Like, choosing the wrong man or hanging out so late at night that you're unable to keep a decent job. Forgiveness is the key to living a peaceful life. So, why is it so hard for some of us to forgive and move forward. Many women struggle with building & keeping a stable relationship (personal & professional) because of their past.
9 times out of 10, it's related to a past childhood experience that has changed them forever.