After The Pain.
After a traumatic event takes place in your life (rape, domestic violence, pedophilia, or harassment), it is normal to have feelings of anxiety, anger, or fear. You may feel as if the walls are closing in on you. These feelings may cause you to shut down & isolate yourself. Having a flashback about a traumatic event can make it difficult for you to connect with reality. It may even make you feel as if the perpetrator is standing right next to you.
Here are five things that will help you cope "after the pain."
- Slowly, Breathe in. Breathe out.
- Take note of all of your surroundings. You need to know that you're not in the same room with your attacker.
- "I survived." Say it out loud, at least five times
- Make a playlist of all of your favorite songs that make you smile. Keep it handy for a moment like this and play it until you're able to feel your resting heart rate.
- Wrap yourself up in your favorite blanket or hug & hold onto your favorite stuffed animal.
Therapy sessions are helpful & sometimes speaking with a Pastor or Priest will bring you some kind of peace. But, there are other times when you need a one on one session with a person that can relate to your pain to help you come out of that dark tunnel. For me, it was hard to listen to someone who had no idea what it felt like to be violated, abandoned, and ignored for several years of their life. What helped me was a close friend of mine named Lily (you can read more about her & my story in my book). Order your copy today 👉🏾 "They Said That I Wouldn't Make It: But Here I Am"
Remember. That incident that caused you so much pain could end up being apart of your life forever. But, that does not mean it has to control you.