Skeletons & Secrets. What's In Your Closet?
Skeletons. Almost everyone has a few of them hanging out in their closet. People feel ashamed and form a need to hide their skeletons from their loved ones and close friends. But, no matter how hard a person may try to hide the things that they are ashamed of, their skeletons will eventually come out of that closet.
A few skeletons that belonged to my father came out of the closet and shocked the mess out of a whole bunch of people. It all started with a text from my oldest sister that said that our father had passed away. At first, I was shocked because I was looking for him and I wasn't able to find him. Even though he was never a father to me or my sisters, I wanted to know where he was and how I could get in touch with him. I just wanted to know that he was okay.
The man had spent most of his life living a double life. He was married to another lady while carrying on a love affair with my mom. The only thing that came out of that situation was three kids. No Father's Day dinner. No driving lessons. No Money. Now, He's dead.
After receiving the text message from my oldest sister I decided to leave work and head over to the funeral home where the viewing of his body was being held. When I got there, so many thoughts begin to go through my head. So many unanswered questions were floating through my mind and I was wishing that I could have asked him all of those questions, but it was too late. I prayed quietly over his lifeless body and said goodbye.
The next day I woke up and prepared myself for the funeral. That day was so overwhelming for me. I met three of my sisters from my father's wife for the first time. They did not know that myself and two of my sisters existed. They stood there, staring with their mouths wide open, not knowing what to say.
Almost everyone at that funeral never had any clue that my father had carried on an affair with my mother for over 16 years while he was still married to his wife. My Father's sister said that she knew about one of us, but she had no idea that two more kids came out of that affair. A lot of things came to light during the burial of his casket. I felt as if I was experiencing a moment that would only happen on The Jerry Springer Show.
I Can Stop Drinking
We also found out that my father was suffering from Prostate Cancer and that he did not want anyone to know. He hid it from most of the family. After the burial, my father's sister walked over to me and said "Oooh! Finally, I can stop drinking". She was relieved from all of the stress that my father was putting on her to keep up with his secrets.
I am truly grateful that my father's side of the family shared the news about his death with myself and my sisters. Skeletons. They have a way of coming out of the closet and shocking the mess out of everyone. Even though I was very angry with my dead father & my dead mother, for holding on to so many secrets for so long, I chose to forgive them both.